If you met the right guy (or gal) but you know that there’s no possibility for a long-term relationship, would you still go for it? We’re not talking about a one-night stand and we’re not talking about a mindless prick with a great face and a nice body. It’s a guy you really get along with and, yes, there are some definite sparks. The kind of person you can see yourself possibly having a meaningful relationship with BUT he’s either moving far, far away (or moving back home), or dying. Would you pursue the relationship and spend as much time as you can with them or cut your loses and run the opposite direction?
Other exclusions from the scenario:
- No, you’re not married (or in a serious relationship) and neither is he.
- No, he’s not an axe murderer or some other type of psycho.
- No, you’re not deathly rich and can afford to have a bi-continental relationship.
- No, you’re not friends from before and are just now “getting together” (this is a completely brand new connection).
- And, no – YOU are not an axe murderer or some other type of psycho (and if you are, please don’t answer).
Some things that are allowed:
- Sex (but safe sex) can be a consideration but the connection can’t be just purely physical (because we all know most of us will do the one-night stand if the other person’s really, really hot!)
- Would you consider moving to follow him/her? Under what circumstances would this be okay? (No suicide pacts, please.)
If I left out anything out of the two lists above then it’s free game, I guess.
5 comments:
What if you're the one who's really ill? Do you have the right to even pursue a relationship with a great woman? Even if you know you will eventually leave her heartbroken, miserable and alone?
Hey - what's up with the postings on late Sunday nights (or should I say early Monday mornings)?
EJ
Should you go for it? In my opinion it isn't up to you. Yes, every one has the choice to walk away from people, but it's not that easy. Once two people have built a meaningful relationship, it's very difficult for you to abandon that because one will be leaving for whatever reason. God puts people in your life for a reason, no matter how long or short a time. Make the most of the time you have with each other - and carry that over to all your loved ones who are sticking around a while.
Love and relationships are not suppose to be easy but it doesn't have to be difficult either. You will know if a person is worth the potential heartache or not. If it feels right (to move forward with the relationship), then it's the right decision to make. I hope.
Run as fast as you can in the opposite direction. And if she does turn out to be an axe murderer, I hope you had enough sense not to have f*cked her before you take off.
You know who -- C.
Unfortunately for you, I'm sure you've already slept with the girl before you even stopped to think if she could possibly be a serial killer. Always leading with the little guy... pun intended.
Thanks to everyone for taking the time to post comments.
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