My mom asked me the other day if I'm planning on getting remarried. Okay - awkward. Just to give my mom's question some context, I come from a very old-fashioned, traditional and strict Catholic family. I'm in the process of getting divorced and there's a general feeling in the family that I'm doomed to "always alone" status.
My response to that question: I am currently NOT planning on getting remarried. I'm still getting used to "hanging out" with other guys (which I'm exploring right now). However, I think anyone who vehemently denies any desire to get remarried or re-committed to a relationship is lying. People do not go around hoping and wishing they will be alone for the rest of their lives, do they?
I could be wrong here but I believe that it's a human need to connect with someone else and have some long-term companionship in life (although it doesn't necessarily have to be the romantic type). Now - I have to say that I am very reluctant about the "getting married again" part, but I have to be honest with myself that I'm just like most people. I would like to fall in love, have romance, have a happy committed relationship, and satisfying companionship.
The question is "when" and "how". Not quite sure about the timing but I'm definitely keeping my options open. As for the how, it's a bit more complicated. I need to stop getting attracted to the wrong type of guys first. And, when I say the wrong type - I mean the wrong type. I'm not talking about the bad boys. It seems that I've been subconsciously picking guys that are unavailable to me: gay or married. So sad but true. Anyway, the "hanging out" part is actually not half bad as I thought it would be. I guess that's because I have no real agenda except to go out and meet other people.
Here's to new friends and new experiences!
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I know how you feel. With me it's, "are you going to get married soon." I'm out to some of the family but it's large and rural. I say no, but now that same sex marriage is legal in Canada in the back of my mind I'm going... perhaps...
You know, my ex and I have been apart for a total of 2½ years now but only our immediate families know about it. So I guess I'm not "out" about that myself and I can (sorta) empathize with your situation.
Hope is always good and I'm glad you have a glimmer of that in sight. Any candidates for future spouses? None of my business in any case.
BTW, I had a chance to visit your Flickr site and WOW! great photos and you're a very attractive person. Lots of lucky guys out there (and heartbroken confused girls).
I've added your blog to my feed as well. Now I just have to wait anxiously for new posts from you. Stop using the "I'm a guy" excuse - you're pretty good at the blogging thing and it's a shame to not share that with the world.
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